“Always do what you are afraid to do.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
TASK AT HAND: This week I’m thinking about success; specifically, the fear of success. Success, this nebulous and enigmatic concept, fascinates me in that it is desired and revered but, at the same time, can create fear and depression.
In a previous Sunday Surgical Scrub, I defined the achievement of success in one of two ways: either you spend your days doing what your love or you craft a life where you subsidize – with money, creativity or effort – time for that which you love (you can find the blog post here). In my opinion, there are no other acceptable definitions of success.
But where do the elements of fear come from when we discuss success?
Is fear just an apparition of objectives that have not yet been achieved? Or does fear and success represent a more complex interplay?
There are two aspects of the fear of success that we will discuss here. First, as the Emerson quote above states, there is a natural fear of the unknown. Success, usually in terms of achievement, represents a journey we have not yet completed. Consequently, a fear of unknown outcomes is a common reaction and akin to the fear of an adventurer seeking discovery. One should use this fear as a motivator for that which we desire, pursue and value.
The second aspect of fear in the context of success is more troubling and is applicable to instances where some success has already been achieved. Whether it be in business, sports, arts or simple hobbies, past success can confound further progress. The fear of success here is dependent on emotional factors where previous success leads to expected future success. The fear of not being able to “back it up” can leave us feeling like an imposter. This fear can cause us to shy away from opportunities which limits our ability for success. This can create stagnation and hinder our willingness to take on fresh challenges.
Stagnation breeds depression which creates paralysis.
How do you overcome the fear of success?
The answer, and I’ve touched on this with the Sunday Surgical Scrub before, requires a commitment to acquainting yourself with the energy and passion to move beyond this fear (check out this Sunday Surgical Scrub blog post here). Remember, worst case scenario is you don’t back it up and fail. So, what? There is no apocalyptic outcome here. There is no fatal end. You will still move on but maybe at a slower pace or in a more prolonged route. Take your task or objective seriously but realize that this fear is miniscule and let it not hold you back from that which you define as success.
MEDICINE & MACULA: Last week I played in the Beyond Walls Squash Week held at the Commodore Club in St Paul MN.
Beyond Walls is an incredible organization aimed at promoting academic excellence, healthy lifestyles and access to meaningful opportunities for all youth. It is a year-round scholar/athlete approach to youth development and out-of-school time for 6th to 12th grade students. It uses a one-to-one academic mentoring with physical fitness via the racquet sport of squash aimed at community engagement and college-readiness. You can find more information here.
I won the amateur A singles squash draw with a bevy of tough matches! I won this tournament in 2016 and was very excited to repeat in 2017. I’ll keep working hard and try for the three-peat in 2018…
In addition to amateur singles, there was a professional singles tournament, a pro-am doubles and an amateur doubles draw.
With sincere gratitude, I thank everyone involved for their energy in growing the sport of squash in the Twin Cities!!
GRATIS: “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” -Mark Twain
My best to you,