“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”
TASK AT HAND: This week I’m thinking about success; a nebulous concept that for millennia has eluded many. Last week, a friend asked me how I define “success” – not happiness, not satisfaction – simply success. This enigmatic question consumed a lengthy conversation that I believe worthwhile to revisit here.
I believe success occurs in one of two ways: either you spend your days doing what your love or you craft a life where you subsidize – with money, creativity or effort – time for that which you love. Furthermore, those we love and love us, are fundamental cornerstones of success. Our relationships with those we care about is absolutely critical: clichés like the influential who neglects loved ones is not success.
Let’s take this first part: do what you love. I am reminded of Mark Twain’s words: “The secret of success is making your vocation your vacation.” This is the ultimate achievement and what I regard as success – no qualifiers needed. Unfortunately, this exists only in a minority of cases. If you are lucky to have this in your life – cherish, craft and confirm it because, “when love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece” (John Ruskin). Now, success is filled with bumps, bruises and bile so never confound it with convenience, which actually tends to degrade your ability to grow.
But, what happens when the above is not the case? In my opinion, the majority of people aren’t lucky enough to love their career or job. This is an unfair reality of civilization. However, this is not a problem: what you then have to do – to achieve success – is develop a routine that allows you to constantly revisit that which you love. Dislike your job? No problem – this does not mean you can’t be successful. Find pockets of time, a circle of friends, actions and hobbies, a lover and family that bring you closer to success and that which you love. This could mean saving for a vacation, biking with a group of friends – it doesn’t matter – as long as you are on that byway which is intrinsically yours. As the quote above implies, success is singular to you! If you find yourself at odds with this goal, remember: “success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts” (Winston Churchill). Continue to craft the life that finds in it your success.
As you move forward, don’t feel that you have to adopt my definition in any way. But, realize that you need to define this term for yourself – this is essential if you are ever going to achieve success.
MEDICINE & MACULA: In line with our discussion, let’s move over to the business literature. Here is a case study driving the point that if the sole purpose of your business or career is to make money, you’re destined for mediocrity. Change your story so that meaning is first priority and money second.
Check out the study here.
GRATIS: Given today’s topic, I leave you with a few words from Frank…
“Regrets, I’ve had a few
But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption
I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way
“My Way” –Frank Sinatra
Go out. Find success. Your Way.
My best to you,