“Fight the need to judge. Become a celebrator rather than a critic.”
TASK AT HAND: This week I’m thinking about critics. As we all know, everyone is a critic! Everyone has opinions and biases that they feel the need to impart on others. The need to judge has two facets. On the one hand, you need to judge effectively to survive the physicality of life. You need to judge which food to eat and avoid the rotten fruit. You need to judge whether to drive given the forecast for a snowstorm. You need to judge the offers, opportunities, and obligations present in your life.
However, on the other hand, there is a point when the need to judge degrades our relationships and experiences. Constantly criticizing the possible or perceived negative aspects of our station causes us to lose the ability to fully partake in it. In this stressful state, we become defensive and detached. It is difficult to acknowledge that by criticizing, we are retracting from meaningful communication. By judging, we are choosing to turn away from the rapport and recognition that may help us grow and develop.
“By judging, we are choosing to turn away from the rapport and recognition that may help us grow and develop.”
So, what do you do? How do you become a celebrator rather than a critic? There are two strategies to embrace your inner celebrator. First, accept that “Time is the fairest and toughest judge” (Edgar Quinet). You don’t need to judge anyone. You don’t need to criticize every interaction. Time will hand down its judgment on all. You can free yourself from this need to judge by seeing yourself as an insignificant microcosm on time’s rather lengthy record. This liberating action helps you detach from negative encounters without becoming consumed by them.
“You don’t need to judge anyone. You don’t need to criticize every interaction. Time will hand down its judgment on all.”
Second, celebrate with gratitude! Whether it be relationships or duties, find some aspect to be grateful for. Then celebrate it! Although simple, this is not intuitive, because of our overwhelming need to find negative attributes to correct. Next time you want to judge someone or something, try this. Find some aspect that you are grateful for and celebrate it. Before you know it, instead of criticizing you will be celebrating even losses and hardship.
“Rather than criticizing, find some aspect that you are grateful for and celebrate it!”
MEDICINE & MACULA: Check out our latest publication, Deer Tick Masquerading as Pigmented Conjunctival Lesion (Robin K Kuriakose, Lorna W Grant, Eric K Chin & David RP Almeida) published in the American Journal of Ophthalmology Case Reports.
In it, we report a unique case of tick penetration of a black-legged deer tick (Ixodes scapularis) into the conjunctiva. Despite the low risk for Lyme disease, doxycycline was prescribed for prophylaxis. In any case of suspected tick penetration to the ocular surface, immediate ophthalmologic consultation and prompt removal as well as attention paid to the Infectious Diseases Society of America guidelines regarding prophylaxis.
GRATIS: “Let you look sometimes for the goodness in me, and judge me not.” -Arthur Miller
My best to you,